But ultimately, the author never answers the question. She never even gets close. She glosses over the connections made by the mediums she visits, mostly relating the readings to mention how those in the audience gasped in surprise or ultimately, shared grief. But when it's time to delve into the question: Does the afterlife exist? she whiffs.
And where do we, the reader, end up?
The author’s filter for dealing with the issue of the afterlife, seems to focus on what she calls, "shared grief.” Her background as a grief therapist means she takes us on a long, circuitous route into visiting psychics/mediums/past life regressionnists and shamans only to conclude that there is "something therapeutic in shared grief.” ( her words not mine)
When we have an opportunity to learn something new, to delve into what she is uncovering, she skirts it. Or skips it. Leaving the reader to wonder.
She poses the question what happens when we die? She tells us this was an assignment in a class when she was earning her masters degree but never tells us what was discussed except that, we "drew on our backgrounds and life experiences.”
When noted psychic/medium Jonathan Edwards explains to her that "there is just one plane of a multidimensional universe with a different sense of time and space,” she glosses over it, rather than taking the opportunity to explore what this means. She has the opportunity to delve into the answer to When life is over, where do we go, over and over. But the answer remains stillborn throughout the book.
Her promise to explore the subject is ultimately wrapped up in an institutionalized construct of grief processing. She seems unable to move beyond her profession, spending time with grief handouts and focusing on either therapy, or her children. Neither helps the reader or answers the question.
If this author, like others, wants to further our understanding of this unexplained subject, I have a few suggestions:
Start out by learning about how psychics, mediums and others in this realm, work.
And where would we get real, accurate information about psychics?
By reading books that have stood the test of time about the workings of the psychic world, written by academicians or psychic/mediums who have been involved professionally and have a long track record.
If you want to fill in the missing pieces of this difficult puzzle, you need to undertake a deeper investigation of this energetic space, quantum physics and alternative frameworks for viewing the universe. Visiting psychics and saying they produced “initials, causes of death, birthdays, etc.” and then dropping it, is like saying, “I decided to write a book about brain surgery. What’s all the fuss about?” If you fail to take apart what is going on, explain it, and examine the process, your results are going to be limited.
I wouldn’t dare write a book about musical criticism, videography in cinema, or dental surgery without reading every book on the subject, studying the process, undertaking a comprehensive review of the field, learning what it takes to become an expert, in short—spending a hell of a lot of time learning about a field I am not an expert in. Out of respect for the reader, I’d try to be well-armed with knowledge so that I can present the information in the most even-handed, well researched and thought out way. Yet, this is the second book I have read recently where the author set out to work with psychics and makes assumptions about what they are going to learn, yet don’t seem to have bothered to learn about the process they’re investigating. This is not research. This is a vanity project, a reflection of the author’s personal sally and journaling of their experience. This is ultimately misleading and provides a disservice not only to the readers, but to everyone in this community.
After her first meeting with John Edwards, the author says, “I realized I want so much more from a visit with a second medium than with John Edwards.”
Really? Does this woman understand how this process works? If so, she would know that you come into mediumship readings with no expectations.
After all this—her meetings, readings, musings—one of her suggestions about the afterlife? Keep photos of your loved ones around.
Really? This is what they charge $25.95 for this book for? Hardly an examination of what happens to us after we die.
There are going to be more books about this subject. Interest in the occult, psychics and the afterlife, are all on the rise. I hope the research process improves. I walked away from this book, wondering who was the charlatan?